‘But I don’t have any goals!’ – The Difficulties of the Blogging Community

I have been blogging now for just three months, and whilst I’ve started to take a more relaxed approach to how quickly I churn out content and the engagements I make, I have learned a lot about what I want out of my blogging journey and what I’ve achieved so far.

The Difficulties of the Blogging Community

I learned early on that the biggest part of blogging and bringing in traffic is engagement on social media – with my platform of choice being Twitter. Once I established my blog brand, I set my blog Twitter page up and set about trying to connect with other bloggers. When I first started out, I really wanted to get a feel for other blogs in my niche – lifestyle blogging – and wanted to see how my writing compared to that of more established and experienced writers. So, I followed a lot of similar blogs to mine, and started writing a lot. I got my content out there, and as my blog posts grew, so did my following.


I didn’t expect to make friends – but I did. I’ve made some really fabulous supportive friends who I talk to everyday. Not even about blogging really anymore; we talk like old friends who have known each other a long time and share experiences and feelings and give each other advice. I’ve really enjoyed that side of the blogging community; and not just with my new ‘squad’ of bloggers – but all the people I’ve connect to, that I have interacted with, who’s blogs I enjoy reading. The community is what kept me blogging; I felt – feel – like a part of something that’s just for me.

Being connected to so many people brings a variety of opinions, experiences, knowledge and skills. No post is the same on my Twitter feed – I’m no longer just connected to lifestyle bloggers, but also to travel bloggers, beauty and fashion bloggers, foodie bloggers, parenting bloggers… everything. It’s amazing to see so many different ideas and experiences – see how someone lives their day-to-day compared to yours. And Twitter is a huge stage – there’s a very big audience with a lot of potential for your post outreach.


But the difficulty of being part of such a big community with these different ideas and opinions, and varying levels of ‘success’ or ‘stature’ – is that you can get distracted by what you think is expected of you as a blogger compared to what you actually want. For me, I don’t have any goals for my blog and I’m actually wondering what I’m gonna do when I turn 30 in less than 3 years and the name of my blog won’t stand anymore. That’s all I’m worried about – I’m not fixated on numbers or traffic anymore.

However – my first day of blogging on Twitter – I was hit with post after post about ‘How My Blog Became My Full Time Job In Just 3 Months’ or ‘How To Get 1000 Followers In A Month’. I had never blogged before, and didn’t start blogging with any aim or goal – but the flurry of posts on just my first day made me stop and question if I was doing something wrong? After 2 weeks, when I didn’t have 200 followers, I was wondering why I couldn’t make 1k in one month? I became embroiled in the ‘I need 500 followers by…’ frenzy and although I made and surpassed my goal – the event passed as quick as it came.


After that ‘event’, I stopped dishing out posts everyday. I took a break for my birthday – and decided I wasn’t going to fixate on the numbers anymore. Because the numbers don’t define me as a blogger – I define me as a blogger. Who is anybody else to tell me that I’m not a successful blogger because I don’t earn money from it or I don’t have 10k followers or I don’t get 1k views a day? My blog is my blog – it’s my log of experiences that I choose to share with others. I don’t share it in the hope I will get monetary offers or that tons of people will decide to follow me. I do it because I want to connect with other people; I have experiences and thoughts and feelings that make me unique but also help me to share something with somebody else that helps them to feel they are understood. That they aren’t alone in their experiences because I’ve been through something similar.

I may not have been blogging for long, but I recognise that blogging is as much about making money as any other creative art – it isn’t. Art is about expressing yourself, either through words, music or drawing, modelling or painting – however you decide to visualise what’s in your soul and your mind. Sure, there’s money to be made – but that isn’t what everybody should set out to do. I don’t read a blog and think ‘wow this is worth a lot of money’. I read a blog and think ‘Wow, this person really understands what I’m going through right now’ or ‘This is a fantastic writer, I wanna read more of his stuff’.


And there’s nothing wrong with making money from your blog – that’s incredible that you’ve been acknowledged for your work and made something from it! But please stop making other bloggers feel as though they are underachieving because they aren’t making money too or because they don’t have as many followers as you. They are putting themselves out there just as much as you are. Rather than focusing on making posts about how another blogger should be just like you and have a blog like yours, why not take an opportunity to read others’ content – new bloggers especially? You were once starting out just as they were.

When I was starting out, the one thing I wanted out of my blog was for people to read it and it still is! And it’s the hardest thing to get people to do! It’s so easy to retweet and share a post – but they didn’t spend hours writing it for the shares; they spend hours pouring their soul into words so that you might read it and enjoy it, connect to it or learn from it. As any experienced blogger, with thousands of readers and people who look up to you, words of encouragement and advice is invaluable to a new kid on the block.


So please, stop telling bloggers why they should aspire to be something you think they should be. Maybe they don’t want the same things as you – and that’s fine – but it also doesn’t make them less of a blogger or even less successful. We define for ourselves what successful is. Do you know why I’m a successful blogger? Because I didn’t give up after the first day. I kept going and I’m still here when I didn’t think I would be. And to those of you who feel you’re behind in the race – this isn’t a race or a competition. You are doing something amazing by putting your passion into words and sharing it with the world. Imagine if all the world was full of bloggers – and social media was as positive as the blogging communities are? It would be incredible! But for now, we are part of this big family and we should be supporting each other with whatever they want or don’t want out of their experience.




23 Comments Add yours

  1. LeahNaomi says:

    Love this!

    Liked by 2 people

    1. francescawho says:

      Thank you Leah! I’m glad you enjoyed!

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Aww yeah! I can so relate to this as you know. I just LOVE the writing part of it and expressing myself with my voice and my style. I am always happy if others seem to enjoy it. I have found a few blogs that I love to read and yours is on my list now as well.
    I am glad I found it.

    Liked by 3 people

    1. francescawho says:

      Aw thank you so much! I’m glad you were able to relate, much appreciated that you took the time to check it out and comment! X


  3. I saw those posts and it really annoyed me to. I also think it’s really important to note that half the time, you can’t control growth. I’m one of those people who got 1000 followers in less than three months but that was luck. Growth on my blog isn’t nearly as fast as it was a month ago. It’s pot luck how fast your blog grows and despite those posts saying how to do x in y amount of time, there’s very little you can actually do to influence growth!

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    1. francescawho says:

      Exactly, it’s all just in a roll of the dice. I was lucky with my spurt of popularity which has now died down but that’s because I’ve taken a step back with being so busy. But you deserve every follow! Fabulous writing


  4. There are a whole lot of ‘professional’ bloggers out there telling us what to do and how to go about blogging. If you enjoy what you do and have some readership- I have to say it’s so disapoining when no one reads my post- then we should just carry on enjoying what we do. One blogger I follow gets a huge number of likes just for posting something that I would consider to be nothing more than a status update, the sort of thing I post on facebook. I do feel a little jealous of that but what the heck, I enjoy writing and my one deadline- Saturday at 10:00am- keeps me sharp!
    enjoyable post, best wishes, Steve

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    1. francescawho says:

      Completely agree Steve. I have total respect for bloggers that have managed to turn their writing into a full time job. But that does not mean they should tell others what they should be aspiring to do. Not everybody wants the same thing.
      Like I said, the hardest part of writing is getting people to read your post. But if you enjoy it, that’s all that matters.


  5. 1000 followers is just a dream for some of us!
    It took me a whole year to get 99…
    via the WordPress Reader.

    Though my circumstances are quite unusual, as I am blogging while very ill.
    (Even writing a short post makes me more unwell.)

    I don’t understand how a blog connects with social media, and have never used any of those platforms.
    (Perhaps I should try that, but am not sure where to start.)

    Thank you for an interesting read.

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    1. francescawho says:

      Hi Ken, thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment!

      Social media is a fabulous tool which really does boost the traffic on your blog. I’d be happy to offer you some tips.

      All that matters is that you enjoy writing – numbers are just numbers


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  6. Thank you, Fran.

    I’m afraid 30 years of illness has turned me into almost a recluse, lacking friends or social life.
    Hence not going on social media: because of having no one to connect with.

    Unfortunately, I don’t enjoy writing either.
    I am forcing myself to blog, so that all my past creative work is not lost.

    What I really enjoy about blogging is…
    getting “likes” on wordpress!

    Which is sad, yet it’s the only recognition I have.
    Thus the tiny size of my audience matters more than it should.

    I know this is unhealthy.
    But, hey, I AM unhealthy!

    I still have a sense of humour, however.
    And if I knew how to use emoji’s, I’d probably put one here…

    Best wishes from Ken


    1. francescawho says:

      Hi Ken, people make social media accounts for their blog, and connect with other bloggers – I don’t have any of my personal friends or family on there and they don’t see my blog!

      Likes definitely do give us that boost that what we’re writing is good – and you get them because people clearly enjoy your writing, not because you’ve asked for them!

      Hope you keep on writing 🙂 Fran

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  7. CherishingFLo says:

    This was such a great read. For the past couple months and when I first started blogging in August I was thrown off by all the making money with my blog in 3 months thing. I felt inadequate because my blog wasn’t booming but when I started my blog I didn’t even know you COULD make money from it. I just wanted to blog because I love to write and I wanted to share that with others. And I wanted to meet other bloggers who I could relate to. In that aspect I also love the community but I don’t even deal with those “how to make money” posts. I’d love to make a full time income from my blog but that’s not why I do it and that’s not my focus and now I am looking to grow my blog just for the sake of community. Because my blog is about helping people and I wanna help as many people as I can. One day when money comes, I’ll be happy about it. But I’ll never let that become my focus and I’ll never compare myself to other bloggers and what they have going on again.


    1. francescawho says:

      Thanks so much Flo, always appreciate you stopping by and checking out my posts.

      Completely agree with you, it’s easy to get caught up in because it’s in your face all the time what you should be doing when in actual fact, everybody’s journey is different and shouldn’t be forced to go in any way that doesn’t suit the blogger. I just love writing; I’ve never chased monetisation. I love getting followers and I’m getting them withouta advertising for them, if you get what I mean. So I’m doing okay by myself! You have a great blog, keep at it for you!

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  8. allthingspopsx says:

    Ahh what a great read! A much needed reminder on a Saturday morning that having more followers and more views isn’t everything. It’s much better to have less followers but them all be people who genuinely engage and want to read all of your posts. Beautifully written as always 🙂 x

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    1. francescawho says:

      Thank you my lovely! Exactly what I feel, there are some special people in this community who really back me and my blog. Those are who matter!


  9. wordwile says:

    Good luck with your blog, regardless of what direction you choose to take it.


  10. scarytwenties says:

    This is really great! As a new blogger I understand how hard it is to get people to read my posts and that’s really the only thing we want, I completely agree. Knowing that your words are being read and the possibility that they will help someone else who can be feeling the same way is what I look forward to. Thank you so much! I needed to hear this 🙂

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